Resetting My Mind, Reclaiming My Space #Settlefree

Hello there,

Yes, you.

You might be visiting this page wondering,

“Why doesn’t she follow me anymore?”

Or “Why did she block me?”

Or “Why does it feel like she’s gone silent?”

She must be bitter. She must be jealous. She must have been in competition with me. Let me make it plain and simple , no no , this isn’t about bitterness.

It’s about clarity. Growth, Peace, and a full on life reset.

Over the years, I’ve been a loyal friend, a supportive colleague, a genuine connection.

I’ve invited you to my Settlefree events and placed you in positions to be seen and heard, and to make new connections. I’ve celebrated your wins, promoted your brand, honored your presence, and respected your journey. I gave time, energy, encouragement, and love without keeping score.

But somewhere along the way, I noticed that same energy wasn’t being returned.

You stopped showing up.

You stopped clapping.

You started watching, but no longer supporting.

The relationship faded not because of drama, but because of silence, inconsistency, and distance.

Oh I noticed it, but I just stopped pretending not to.

So I did what grown women who know their worth do:

I unfollowed.

I blocked where necessary.

I released what felt fake, forced, or one-sided.

Not out of spite but out of self respect.

I’m now in a season of living my best life on purpose.

I’m going on vacations.

I’m creating joyful memories.

I’m laughing deeply, healing loudly, and prioritizing the things that bring me joy, peace, clarity, love, and true connection.

I’ve spent years in the background especially while caring for my mother, who has faced serious health challenges over time. It’s been devastating. Heavy. Emotionally exhausting. And while I’ll always be there for her, I’ve also realized:

I deserve to live too.

So while I continue to show up for her, I’m also showing up for me. That means protecting my space, my energy, and my peace at all costs.

I’m no longer entertaining mediocre friendships, mediocre business partnerships, or relationships that only remember me when it’s convenient.

Because how can I talk about living a Settle-Free life if I’m still settling for anything less than mutual love, honor, and respect?

I can no longer do that And I won’t.

If you’re someone who truly values what we shared, who remembers how I poured into you, who honors reciprocity and connection, you’re probably still around. And that’s a beautiful thing!

But if you’re not…

Oh well, That’s not shade it’s just growth. And growth requires release.

I’ve changed.

I’ve elevated.

And I’m finally living the Settle-Free life I’ve always encouraged others to pursue.

No more holding on to what and who doesn’t hold onto me back.

No more performing loyalty for people who’ve long checked out.

I’m choosing real connections, purposeful living, and peace over pretense.

Onward and upward for me, and for anyone who’s done pretending not to notice.

Live well.

Live authentically.

Live Settle-Free.

Tinzley Bradford