Redefining Balance & Choosing a SettleFree Life. My Conversation on Her Balance Redefined with Robin L

Y’all already know I’m all about living a settlefree lifestyle and this year, I’m not just talking about it, I’m living it on purpose. I’m taking this even more seriously because too many women are stuck in the past, stuck replaying old wounds that don’t even serve them anymore. They’re waiting on apologies, closure, or explanations they may never get, and it’s quietly holding them back from building the life they actually want. That kind of mental attachment breeds bitterness, resentment, blame, and unhappiness and it will stop your growth dead in its tracks. I want to teach women how to let that go, the same way that I’ve been doing so over the years. Because when you’re truly free, you don’t block your own future, and you don’t resent other people for thriving. You choose yourself, you move forward, and you create better. So doing this podcast was an absolute honor.

From the moment I walked into the space, I knew this conversation was going to be the absolute BOMB. The environment was cute, cozy, cool, and intentional peaceful, calm, productive, and deeply meaningful. The podcast setup was professional yet intimate, creating a space that immediately made you feel comfortable, confident, and open to real conversation.

Robin and I even coordinated without overthinking it both choosing to wear pink, knowing this episode would drop and be recirculated online during Valentine’s Day, a season centered on love, connection, and reflection. It felt aligned, thoughtful, and on brand for the message we were sharing.

Now I’m not gonna give away any of the Insight because you gotta watch the full episode to really really get the full conversation, but I wanted to just let you know how amazing it felt to be in that setting talking about my Settle Free lifestyle which I swear by!

This year, I made a very intentional decision, to live a settlefree life, offline and on purpose. To be more mindful about where my time, energy, and voice go and to say yes to things that are meaningful, aligned, and impactful. Being invited to join Her Balance Redefined with Robin L as the host was one of those full circle, heart affirming moments that reminded me I’m on the right path.

Robin L is a media professional and wellness centered storyteller with a passion for helping women rediscover balance on their own terms. Through her work, she creates space for truth, healing, and emotional grounding, especially during seasons of transition, grief, or burnout.

The full episode dropped January 18, on YouTube and across multiple social media platforms, (the link will be shared below), and I’m truly excited for you to hear this conversation.

How Me & Robin Connected

Robin and I met years ago while both covering a local talent show event here in Georgia. What started as a professional connection turned into a genuine friendship. We stayed in touch, supported each other’s work, and continued to grow individually and creatively.

Me and Robin at my live screening of Fatal Attraction on TVOne

Me and Robin at my 54th birthday celebration.

Life has also connected us in deeper ways. Robin recently lost her mom, and not long ago, I lost mine as well. Grief has a way of reshaping you, grounding you, and making clarity unavoidable. Through it all, Robin has been supportive, encouraging, and consistently proud of the work I’m doing whether it was this podcast or other opportunities she’s connected me to in the past as well as supporting my journey. I’m so so proud of her, excited for her podcast journey, and grateful to call her a friend.

What We Talked About on the Podcast

Our conversation was honest, layered, and necessary especially for women navigating growth, healing, dating, and balance in real time. I dropped a whole lot of settle free nuggets.

Here are some of the key topics we tapped into:

SettleFree Tips

We talked about what it really means to live settlefree not just in relationships, but in life. Choosing yourself, honoring your standards, and refusing to stay in situations that drain you or shrink you.

Signs That You’re Settling

From ignoring red flags to overexplaining your worth, we broke down common signs people overlook when they’re settling and how self-awareness is the first step to change.

Discussing Expectations Early in Dating

We didn’t get to this one, but I wanted to share my feedback on this point.

In my opinion, this is one of the most important conversations to have early on.

This is just how I see it:

When it comes to building relationships, I don’t believe in auditions, I believe in alignment. Early conversations aren’t about control or setting traps they’re about clarity. They’re a way of being honest about who you are and seeing whether someone can actually meet you there.

In my opinion, if honesty scares someone away early, I don’t see that as a loss, I actually see it as time saved.

I’ve learned that the right person doesn’t feel pressured by expectations, they feel guided by them. And expectations being voiced, when they’re shared with care, aren’t demands, they are just direction. People need to know where they’re heading and with who?

Thoughts on Men Calling Women “Washed Up” After a Certain Age

This was a powerful moment. The amount of men that we have seen online trying to say that older women lose value as they age, and that we’re washed up is unbelievable and extremely disrespectful! We addressed this harmful narrative that a woman’s value decreases with age and flipped it for what it really is. Wisdom, confidence, boundaries, and self-knowledge don’t make you less valuable they make you unstoppable. Let’s just say you don’t wanna miss this part of the interview. I had to bring my props to explain my point. He He He!

Tips for Pouring Into Yourself

From protecting your peace to being intentional with rest, friendships, and personal growth we discussed practical ways to pour into yourself without guilt.

Thoughts on Galentine’s Day & Why It’s So Popular

Galentine’s is more than a trend it’s a celebration of sisterhood, chosen family, and community. We talked about why it resonates so deeply, especially in this season of women reclaiming joy and connection.

What Balance Looks Like for Me Right Now

Balance looks different in every season. For me, it means slowing down, honoring grief, choosing alignment over busyness or being seen “doing stuff” to fulfill other folks perception of me. It’s about creating space for what truly matters. Please check out the full episode so you can hear more about my definition of what balance looks like for me right now.

Upcoming Projects

I also shared what’s coming next projects rooted in the settle-free lifestyle, personal growth, and living fully without apology. Gues what? I have a new book I’m working on. Yay!!!!!

So I definitely wanted to share what it felt like behind the scenes on her new podcast. It was amazing. The conversation felt safe, affirming, and timely. I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to do now that mom has passed away, and I miss her so much, I’ve been taking my time, grieving how I need to, but I also make time for the things that matter to me, in this podcast with Robin mattered.

I’m grateful to Robin for creating space for honest dialogue and for continuing to show up authentically in her purpose. Her Balance Redefined is a podcast you’ll want to keep on your radar. GO SUBSCRIBE!

I also want to share one more meaningful detail. To celebrate her new podcast, I had my daughter, who is the founder of ItsKeeKreations (Connect with her on IG) create a congratulatory bouquet of flowers for her. This was especially important to me because so often we benefit from people’s platforms without truly giving them their flowers in real life. We share the posts, we like them, we talk about them, but we don’t always pause to celebrate people in the moment. I want to be intentional about doing that, particularly for those who take the time to recognize and honor me by inviting me onto their platform. This was my way of saying thank you, by giving her flowers, face to face.

Giving flowers in real life!

Watch the full episode now

Available January 18

YouTube and multiple social media platforms

(Links below)

Thank you for continuing to support my journey and this settle-free life I’m committed to living out loud and on purpose. And remember live your #Settlefree Life Unapologetically!

-Tinzley